Getting Married & Keeping it a Secret

The Planning of it All...

So for a few months I had known there would be a possibility of moving away. As the realization hit I was unsure of what to do with my engaged self. So we decided to plan everything and move the following week. Yay. 

Was it hard keeping the biggest secret? YES. There’s no simpler way of putting it. Every time we were around family it was all we thought about, and it would become a joke of “do we tell them today.” I’m so beyond happy AND PROUD we stuck to our guns because the shock and surprise on our parents faces was worth it. 

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How do you plan a surprise wedding?

First go into panic about planning. 

Secondly, think about what’s important to you and what you want for your day. I knew from the start I wanted a party/reception. The ceremony wasn’t too important for me. (It is but with the timeframe something grand isn’t in the books).

Third... realize you’re looking for elopement ceremony’s. Living in Reno the vast options of quick weddings has grown. 

I found this cute company, the hytch , that offers pop up wedding services with different packages. Truly perfect. We got engaged in November & booked our wedding service in December. They’d email us about details but there was absolute no stress planning The ceremony. We just showed up day of and everything was set up. I highly recommend them if you’re in the market for something easy, intimate, and affordable! (Also something majorly important ask your partner for their input/advice yes you may have a vision but if you guys don’t agree or communicate on budget/decor/outfits then unnecessary stress may be added)

Step 4, keep everything a surprise from your loved ones till the night before. Going into this we didn’t want our loved ones stressing out because primarily we were stressed out (with other factors like moving) so we decided to remove the stress and just hit them with the news and slightly stress them night before. Everyone was shocked. Some people were upset but the amount of love and joy filled the day, it was beautiful. 

Have family out of town?

Easy... let them know because you want them to arrive on time. Having price watch on plane tickets or hotels takes time. So if you want people from out of town you need to consider the travel for them. 

We let our out of town guests know and everything worked out, when the time arrived only our friends and parents hadn’t known and it was great. 

How do you plan a reception without anyone knowing?

We are moving out of state so I had the perfect shot to plan a “going away party” and disguise it as our wedding reception ( now there I had some stress planning). We really wanted something low key, the food was cheap and easy and our desserts were free and made by a family friend. My brother in-law was the dj and we had it at my parents house. Had very minimal decor, I mean I could’ve gone further but what we had was simple and fun. 

    

Is there anything you would’ve done differently?

Honestly, no!

The weather was the most bipolar, we had trouble with the dogs, I had a freaking pimple... at the end of day they’re all memories we wont forget about our day. Let’s just give it 10 years for thee grand wedding ball, okay? (a mix of Cinderella & Crazy Rich Asians is what I’m thinking).

Also Happy Birthday to MEEE! I turned 26 the next day and it was the most fun filled weekend. I’ll upload a more detailed post about decor and where I shopped!

Now moving and stress....